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"I Love You" Doesn't Mean
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"I love you" are three little words which are frequently placed together to express a feeling.

Nothing more.

All too often when people say "I love you", the receiver of the words forgets it means nothing more.

"I love you" is thought to mean "I want to spend the rest of my life with you", "Let's get married", and "I love only you".

It doesn't.

It expresses a feeling.

I love you doesn't mean that you will be compatible together in a relationship.

You could love someone very dearly, but it doesn't mean you're 'right' for one another.

You could have very different views on politics/ the way to live life/ where to live/music, and still love each other.

People seem have forgotten that it's possible and more likely to love someone you won't get along with all the time.

It doesn't mean they love only you.

It is possible, and very easy, to love quite a few people at once, although none will be in quite the same way.

What is it about "I love you" which causes people to think it excludes the possibility of loving others?

To find out if they do or not, you need to ask them, not take it for granted.

Of course, some people aren't in touch with the feeling "I love you" expresses either, and yet still say it.

Even worse is when one person says it and means it, and the other says it merely to return the compliment.

Returning the compliment immediately reduces any respect for the words "I love you", and doesn't leave much space for the feeling of love to grow later.

It introduces what is usually the first big lie in the relationship, and what is a joining built on lies?

Worthwhile?

In this case, I love you doesn't even mean "I love you".

Instead it means "You're nice, I don't want to hurt you" (which they are by lying), or "I want to have sex with you, so I'm pretending to love you".

The words "I love you" have long ago become more than the sum of their parts, and this is part of the reason why so many relationships end up on the rocks.

People are no longer either saying what they mean, or hearing what is meant.

Please, when next you go to say the three words, remember what "I love you" doesn't mean.

 

You Scored 80% True To Yourself!

I would love to give you a description of how you did, but only you can truly answer that. I based my scoring like this (though I make no claims that it actually worked out this way, I'm just fumbling through life like the rest of you): 33% or lower basically means you either are not really living your truth, if you even have one, or depending upon the questions answered, your not a very nice person, but you are at least being true to who you are. 34% to 55% means you have a lot of inner demons and not so much inner strength, but at least you are not lost yet. "let yourself go with the disease, be with it, keep company with it - this is the way to be rid of it" in other words, if you know what ails you, what is holding you down, you also know what it will take to be rid of it. "its not too late, and you still have time to change the road your on". 56% to 77% that's about where i think i will be, maybe I'll do better, but that's how I feel inside. I know where I want to be, I know the way to get there, but I don't always live up to my own expectations and ideals. In a way I wrote this test for me, but I thought maybe it might help others assess where they're at and to think about where they want to be and what they want out of life. I want to be 100% real and true, but you know, I would settle for somewhere in the upper 80's to the lower 90's... what about you? 78% to 99% (as I said there is no one-hundred, nobody's perfect) if your on the lower end of the range, you doing alright, but you know in your heart you could still be doing better. Somewhere in the middle, I'm impressed and coming up behind you! on the higher end, bless you, and more power to you! We could all take a page from your book! Keep keeping it real! I guess that's it!

 

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 99% on variable 1

Link: The 100% (True To Yourself) Test written by kurtissebastian on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the 32-Type Dating Test