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Romance vs Realism
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I love being romantic.

Being sensual over everything: making each motion smooth and full of meaning can be a really gratifying experience when you're doing it for someone you really care about.

But what do you do when corniness enters romance?

I can't stand clichés and once that happens, romance isn't as pleasant; it is just boring and hard to listen to.

Things like moonlight dinners and love notes are some classic examples of romance.

However, if the notes use overdone lines and blatant clichés the entire thing is ruined.

The lines "The moment I saw you, I knew I would love you for Eternity" or "I would follow you to the ends of the Earth" are guaranteed to make someone vomit profusely, not just because they are unrealistic and over dramatized, but because they've been used so much.

As overdone as moonlight dinners and rose petals may be, most of the time, they are well received because not a whole lot of people have actually had them done to them.

You see moonlight dinners in movies a whole lot, but how many people have actually been on them?

The numbers of people who have come home to trails of rose petals leading to the bedroom are even less.

To change the direction of this entry just a little, let us talk about being realistic.

Those cheesy lines I mentioned above, and virtually any attempted romantic line that uses the words "Eternity" or "from the bottom of my lonely heart," are unrealistic.

The fact remains that more often that not, when you are deeply in love with someone, if you end up parting ways with that person, you WILL love again, no matter if you said the "you're the only one for me" or "I'll love you until the day I die" lines.

Saying that you have a "soul bond" with someone sounds really nice, and romantic, but it is rather unrealistic.

In my opinion, the concept of "Love at First Sight" is incredibly unrealistic.

I don't believe in "Love at First Sight," but I do believe in "Lust at First Sight".

Now, honestly, when you see someone, do you go: "Hey, look at the morals on that girl over there" or "Wow, he looks responsible."

No you don’t.

More than likely you think: "Hey, what a babe" or "I wouldn't mind being in a backseat with that guy."

Yet everyone complains: "No, I knew it was love at first sight. We got together the first time we met and now we're married!"

Yeah, and? 

When two people "fall in love at first sight" (translation: are attracted to each other at first sight), they will most often get together.

When things don't work out, or when one or both of them turn out to be total assholes, they break up, and nobody hears any of that "Love at First Sight" crap.

The 1 in 10 chance that the two people actually are compatible, THAT'S the one you hear about.

It is not that tons of people actually fall in love at first sight; it is that with the other 9, you never hear anything.

You are not getting the whole story.

Right about now, most of you will probably be thinking something like: "Wow, this guy is about as romantic as a brick."

Sorry.

Love can be beautiful, yes, but it can also be a leeching, untrue thing.

I am trying to look at it all with analytical reason, and not false notions.

Did you know that scientists have actually done studies on the brains of people in love and found that when someone is truly in love, a specific part of their brain shuts down?

I swear that I am not making this up.

It makes sense, because people in love will often put themselves in danger to rescue the other.

This could serve as a survival mechanism.

For a species to survive, it must have mated couples.

It would be in the species best interest in the pair stayed alive, so one creature will try to save its mate if possible.

This instinct is still around, only now it creates blind devotion, which may end up in someone walking off a metaphorical cliff for his or her "lover."

I will refrain from saying that this is rather sad.

I want to be truly in love, yes, but I don't want to become stupid.

 

You Scored 90% Perfect, 9% Realist, 0 %Shy Immature, and 0% Sex Not Romance!

Wonder what score u got huh? what does it mean? well, I'll tell you :-) If you scored a high "perfect" score, guess what! you're perfectly romantic.  You have a beautiful heart, and I hope that someday you will meet that wonderful person of your dreams...  If you scored a high "realist" score... well then, you need to get your head out of the science books my friend!  Love is NOT something you can control, or put into a box... remember that! I hope that you learn to let go a little, listen to your heart a little more! If you scored a high "shy immature"... then wow, you need to grow up when it comes to romance!  Get a backbone! Please realize that those people in the movies and stuff are definitely not the people of your dreams, and that you need to look around you for the flesh and blood people who are probably just waiting for you to open your eyes! If you scored a high "Sex not Romance" Score... you are a horn dog... your mind is ruled by your sex drives, and your probably colder than ice on the inside, just looking for the next selfish pleasurable moment. Grow Up! Get a heart! Let yourself fall in love, meaningful sex with someone you love and have opened and thawed your frozen heart for will be absolutely amazing! More than I bet you've experienced so far!

 

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 99% on Perfect You scored higher than 99% on Realist You scored higher than 99% on Shy immature You scored higher than 99% on SEX Not Romance

Link: The What Kind Of Romantic Are You? Test written by BbyItzCldOutsid on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the 32-Type Dating Test