In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take."

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NOT THE NORM
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While in the midst of a relationship, we always think that it’s perfect.

It is exactly what we have wished for.

We thrive within that relationship and blossom in ways unimaginable before.

Bit by bit, reality starts to creep in.

We become jaded and bitter that the relationship was not what we wished for it to be.

In hindsight, we realize what was wrong and what had happened.

We sometimes realize that this last one was remarkably similar to the one before.

While I cannot provide you with concrete scientific data, I do believe that we tend to seek out the same traits in our lovers.

If we would look back on our past relationships, we would probably find common traits in all of our lovers.

I sit here now reflecting on my past relationships and realize that most of the women that I have been with do, in fact, share similarities.

The great majority of the women that I have been with were selfish creatures.

They seemingly lacked the patience or the know how to get to know me.

I mean get to know what goes on inside of me.

It’s hard to fathom why I kept choosing the same type of individuals repeatedly, but I suppose that could have quite a bit to do with my self-esteem at the time.

Perhaps, I unconsciously believed that I did not deserve more.

I am not sure.

But whatever the reasoning behind my choices, the fact remains that I did make those choices.

I have been smart enough to realize over the years that the whole female population is not at fault for my choices.

I realize that, while the women that I have dated weren’t life mate material for me, they were not an example of the entire female species.

I believe that if most people take the time to evaluate their past relationships and realize the commonalities between their past loves, they may have a chance to swerve away from that road.

Maybe with that realization, they can choose someone with different traits and perhaps, it may lead to a more fulfilling and complete relationship for them.

I realize that I make it seem easy.

It’s not.

If a person tries to figure out what went wrong in their relationships, the rest comes easy.

I have realized in my relationships that sometimes I was lacking the deep connection with my partner.

That applies to almost all of my relationships that I have ever had.

Within the course of my relationships, I had always felt like my needs were not taken care of.

I didn’t have a supportive partner that cared how I felt or what I was thinking.

I didn’t have a partner that pushed me and shoved me toward my dreams.

I never had a partner who wanted me to be all that I could possibly be.

It’s time I went outside my norm.

I will choose someone who possesses all of the qualities that I long to find in someone.

Maybe if we all take a look into the past and find those common traits in past partners, we can break away from relationships that leave us unfulfilled and incomplete.

There is a chance that we could end up finding someone who completes us, satisfies us and is someone we will wish to spend the rest of our lives with.

 

INFJ - The Counsellor You scored 50 I versus E, 20 N versus S, 40 F versus T, and 60 J versus P!

Your ideal romantic partner is known as the Counsellor.  This type makes a supportive and insightful romantic partner, encouraging their mates to have dreams and work hard to make those dreams come true.  Because they are so creative, they have a wealth of ideas to help them toward those goals.  They need harmony so much that they are driven to resolve conflict quickly, as long as the terms don't violate their strong ethics.  They feel the most appreciated when their partners admire their creativity, trust their inspirations, and respect their values.  It is also vitally important that their partners be open and emotionally available - in other words, that they be willing to share themselves completely. The group summary: Idealists (NF) The type summary: INFJ

 

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 99% on I versus E You scored higher than 99% on N versus S You scored higher than 99% on F versus T You scored higher than 99% on J versus P

Link: The Best Personality Type for You Test written by unpretentious2 on Ok Cupid, home of the 32-Type Dating Test

Fairy tales, your love will be like an imaginary
story, you love to love, you believe you have
only one soul mate is waiting for you some
where in this world and you are sure you will
find them one day, and when you do you will
make them the happiest in the whole world.

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You Are A Guardian Angel.